It takes dedication, time, and energy to take care of a cat. They can – at times – be emotionally and financially expensive. And yet here we all are, learning how to feed them well, how to keep them happy, and how to include them in our homes and families.
If you did enough research before adopting a cat to expect the effort they would require, that preparation was probably key to making the adjustment go smoothly for you and your kitty. If you adopted without research – perhaps spur of the moment or due to unexpected circumstances – it’s normal to feel a bit off-kilter while you both find your footing in your new lifestyle. After all, owning pets is, very much, a lifestyle.
Anyone who has been attached to a cat can tell you they are worth every ounce of work it takes to keep them safe, healthy, and content. Despite the meme-tastic stereotype that cats are callous and aloof to the woes of humankind, getting to know them will teach you that they are capable of incredible depths of love and empathy. Our lives truly are richer for having cats in them.
Purring and cuddling might be the first, most obvious signs of affection you notice, but they are far from the extent of fond expressions your cat will display. Felines’ senses are finely attuned to scent, and a well-attached cat is likely to groom you (as they would themselves or their kittens) or rub against you. This leaves traces of their scent as a kind of “Kitty was here” or “I like this human” sign.
They share scents with those they consider parts of their family to build a unique fragrance that identifies each of you. Other cats will know that you belong to your cat’s clan, as it were. Headbutts are a fun example of cats communicating their friendship with you, and are often followed by their signature cheek rub. This is a playful, gentle way for them to mark their scent on you and declare you as their own.
When your cat loves and trusts you, they’ll also allow themselves to be more vulnerable around you. Their behaviour will be softer, more obviously affectionate, and maybe even goofy. They might display their belly in a way that appears similar to how dogs do, but it isn’t necessarily an invitation for belly rubs. Take it more as them letting you know they’re happy to see you, and appreciate that they feel safe enough to reveal their vulnerable bellies.
Your own cat will have their own particular ways of showing you love and empathy that will unfold as you get to know them. Like every relationship worth having, keeping the commitment you make to your kitty is a work of love that will be frustrating on some days, effortless on others, and will carry you through years of happily co-existing as a family. When you feel like you aren’t cut out to be the wonderful cat-parent they deserve, remind yourself of all the bits of love they have to give you. Lastly, never be afraid to reach out for help or advice from your local veterinarian if you’re concerned about their health or safety, and rest in the knowledge that your cat is with you for the long haul; you’re family now.